On Young Love, Marriage, Purpose and Parents

By Asher Keren

12 July 2009



We all seek to make our mark in this world, to change for the better a humanity often fierce and cold. We all need to know that our lives have purpose, that our fleeting time spent on earth has meaning. In short, when young at least, we all believe in revolution!


Marriage should be our first revolution. That is, young marriage and young love. It can be a statement to the world that we affirm life, that we desire the passion it takes to move ahead and press our will onto otherwise seemingly distant and impenetrable cultures and societies. This is why religious cultures scorn pre-nuptial sex.


If natural sexual expression is obtained without the responsibility of marriage, there is in truth no real motivation to revolt, no true goal to be attained other than procreation or societal approval, the programmed maintenance of a well oiled apparatus, the opposite of revolution.


Young religious people crave intimacy just as the secular, perhaps even more. But before they obtain it, they must make a statement. "Our intimacy is our calling card into the player's arena. We are old enough, strong enough, healthy enough and stubborn enough to take our stab at love and therefore, at revolution! You cannot stop us anymore; we will have passion because revolution is passionate!


We demand life; we want freedom to explore and to know one another. If we cannot know intimately even one, we cannot help the world to change, to become a better place. If we cannot give and receive love in its most primal form, we cannot fight evil at its basest either – and we are willing to take responsibility for this sacred knowledge and trust.



Marriage, for those wise enough to abstain beforehand, can be the most powerful claiming of rights and responsibility for the betterment of our world. And so, when a young couple decides to get married, the parents should be proud, overjoyed by the fact that their children have decided to continue not only the endless chain of life but also the incessant struggle to maintain dignity in the face of an often harsh reality. Parents should be thankful their children are entering into the powerful world of intimacy, that their children are now the holders of the torch, of the flame; for without this they must realize that their own dream is a revolution lost.



Asher Keren is the author of 'A Time For Change'. Find his books at:


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