Once you are living a full and balanced life you do not need to rely on someone else to make you happy. Once you are comfortable in your own skin, okay at spending some time on your own, you have some hobbies of your own, then you have something to give to the other person and it makes you less needy and more attractive. Know what you have to bring to the table.Feeling secure in yourself and your relationships, being a good communicator, having other positive relationships in your life, all help make dating run smoothly.
Being aware that men and women behave very differently: not getting disappointed if you don’t get that phone call right away.
Maintaining your identity and not giving your power away – what do you have to do to stay you. What’s important in your life that you need to keep doing in order to be you?
On the date
Putting forward your most positive self
This is something I am very passionate about. There is nothing worse than being on a date with someone that is moaning or depressed about his or her work, or fed up with his or her life. Maybe your life is not all a bed of roses but try and shelve that for at least the first four dates. Talk about the positives, something you enjoyed doing recently, a run, a movie, and a meal, anything positive.
Get to know someone in stages, the first stage is about sharing and generating some interest, this is where you can hold back some of the nooks and crannies and focus on positive things in your life right now.
Its good to get the other person talking to so try to ask questions that will take them to the stuff they enjoy too. If you feel like you are going into a bit of a black hole and past relationships are the topic then say something like, ‘why don’t we not talk about that now, lets find something more fun to chat about! I am sure the other person will appreciate it.
Jo Barnett Dating Coach
http://www.datingcoach.me.uk/
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