Dating should be fun, so why is my hair turning white and my enthusiasm fading fast!?

Dating Tips by the Dating Coach - Jo Barnett

When you first set eyes on your date one of two things can happen, relief or revulsion. He or she may not look like your dream partner but then you and then you do one of the following, pretend you are present while mentally preparing for tomorrows meeting, or give them a chance (innocent until proven guilty).

Remind yourself why you are here, to find out more about someone, believe me its as hard for them as it is for you so if you feel nervous try and laugh about it. So what if you cant instantly see yourself walking down the isle with this person, settle for an orange juice instead.

If you have decided to give the lucky contestant a chance, the compliment will be returned and they will now be giving you at least half of their attention. This is not to be sneezed at and I encourage you to take this moment and expand on it. Now's the time to use your body language, smile and unfold your arms, get some positive energy flowing.

Ask some questions and try to share something positive about yourself. By letting someone in a bit they will feel more relaxed and at ease. You may even begin to LIKE your date, then one or two things will happen, the conversation will hopefully flow, and this is a great time so start being a bit flirty! Remind yourself that you are all about having a fun night out and getting to know someone, treat him or her as if they were a new best friend.

When your date is speaking it makes sense to really listen, then at least you know what you are getting into, you can not hide behind a pretense that you did not realize he was already married, or that she has just come out from a lovely stay at the clinic?

Tell a story about yourself like the time you went on holiday with a friend and something funny happened. This is not the LIFE story, just a simple little piece of your past. When you share with someone one of two things can happen, the other person gets to see a different side of you, they may also feel closer and more attracted to you (its a win win).

Toward the end of the evening one or two things will start to happen for both of you, either you decide that you want to see your date again or you are planning a polite let down. If you want to see this person again tell them, its really flattering and people respond well to honest. Don't take a rejection to heart, as lovely and charming as you are, not everyone is for everyone.

I know its hard to imagine, but your date has a busy life too so he or she may not get in touch straight away, be patient. If you really want to know whats going on for the other person, take a deep breath and ask! Text, email, msm, its all available to us but nothing works like the other person at the end of the phone.

I hope you enjoy your next date and I am on call for follow up sessions!

Jo Barnett
Dating Coach
http://www.datingcoach.me.uk/