By Miri Lee
21 Ocotober 2009
I am going to share this story because it really is one of sweetness.
This is the true story of my cyber dates.
I am here in England and he is there in Israel.
We met on a social media site; just a message or two and then we moved our chat to Skype. That first chat was only supposed to be for five minutes as I was on my way out, but it became an hour of idea swapping and laughter. I ran out in my old jeans that night but I was smiling.
Laughter is attractive. Very. Real belly laughs because someone else gets your humour, or your way of thinking. That is the kind of connection you don't have to try and make because it is just there.
So we had Skype dates. Most nights, we would log on at ridiculous o'clock and talk. For hours sometimes. We really did get to know each other. And yet we couldn't touch. It is amazing to have the clarity of a video call and yet you can't kiss goodnight or hug. But you can get to see each other's truth and read each others faces. I knew when he was tired and there was one night when I was really strung out and he was as comforting to me as if I had been right there next to him.
One day he emailed me and asked me to join him on a date. A real date in a coffee bar, me with my laptop and he with his.
It was so thoughtful, the gesture of taking me out even though we were thousands of miles apart. And the concept made me smile all day.
So that is what we did! I went to a local kosher restaurant and ate shakshuka and drank wine, and he did the same. In another time zone and another country but we had our date. My waitress was amused, the Internet connection was awful and kept crashing but we persevered.
Then I went away on holiday and we had time apart from the connection to think. I missed our chats online and he and I thought about the truth of our lives and we are not in the same place. Reality hit and the romantic spell broke. And it was fine. Because we had lost nothing and gained a friendship.
We did meet face to face and he was really just as I felt him to be from our cyber dates. A kind and funny man, sweet and honest.
Though we are not meant to be partners for many reasons, he is someone I am so pleased came into my life. Somtimes we forget that there are good people out there, and sometimes they are not our life partner but add something beautiful to our lives.
This is the true story of my cyber dates.
I am here in England and he is there in Israel.
We met on a social media site; just a message or two and then we moved our chat to Skype. That first chat was only supposed to be for five minutes as I was on my way out, but it became an hour of idea swapping and laughter. I ran out in my old jeans that night but I was smiling.
Laughter is attractive. Very. Real belly laughs because someone else gets your humour, or your way of thinking. That is the kind of connection you don't have to try and make because it is just there.
So we had Skype dates. Most nights, we would log on at ridiculous o'clock and talk. For hours sometimes. We really did get to know each other. And yet we couldn't touch. It is amazing to have the clarity of a video call and yet you can't kiss goodnight or hug. But you can get to see each other's truth and read each others faces. I knew when he was tired and there was one night when I was really strung out and he was as comforting to me as if I had been right there next to him.
One day he emailed me and asked me to join him on a date. A real date in a coffee bar, me with my laptop and he with his.
It was so thoughtful, the gesture of taking me out even though we were thousands of miles apart. And the concept made me smile all day.
So that is what we did! I went to a local kosher restaurant and ate shakshuka and drank wine, and he did the same. In another time zone and another country but we had our date. My waitress was amused, the Internet connection was awful and kept crashing but we persevered.
Then I went away on holiday and we had time apart from the connection to think. I missed our chats online and he and I thought about the truth of our lives and we are not in the same place. Reality hit and the romantic spell broke. And it was fine. Because we had lost nothing and gained a friendship.
We did meet face to face and he was really just as I felt him to be from our cyber dates. A kind and funny man, sweet and honest.
Though we are not meant to be partners for many reasons, he is someone I am so pleased came into my life. Somtimes we forget that there are good people out there, and sometimes they are not our life partner but add something beautiful to our lives.
So you see, dating online is not all doom and gloom!
He is still my friends and always will be.
Maybe I will dance at his wedding.
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